In the preceding two posts, I have been letting you know how we got the idea to develop and market our ground-breaking couple's communication programs. After I decided on the format that I thought was the most effective and after having "completed" the program, the time had come to test it on my wife. We had decided that we were going to spend a few days at the beach and that seemed like an excellent venue to start the process of re-connecting with each other.
After arriving, unpacking and settling into an "un-routine", we were relaxed and enjoying our time together without the pressures of life at home. One afternoon while sitting on the balcony and enjoying the sea breezes and the view of the shoreline, I mustered the courage and began talking to my wife saying, "I know we love each other, but we have a problem." I then point-blank asked her, "Are you happy with our sex life and our level of communication the past several years."
"No, and we need to do something about that - and fast!" she replied.
I then explained to her that I had been working on a form that I hoped would allow us to finally open up to each other and get us at least talking about the things that we had been suppressing for so long. I asked her "Would you be willing to fill out this form with me?"
"Yes." she replied. "I'm willing to try anything."
We sat down together on the balcony and with the bright summer sky and the waves crashing on the shore as our backdrop, we each started to read the questions and select our answers in private, without any input of feedback from each other. After we both had completed our forms, I read each of the questions aloud and told my wife my answers, holding nothing back and she, in turn, told me her answers for each of the questions.
To say that I was surprised at the results would be an understatement! On many of the question, we started to have very open discussions, frequently straying from the original point of focus. In the course of our review, there were plenty of surprises for both of us. Things were revealed that we had never before thought of admitting to ourselves, much less talking about them with each other.
The whole process took us about four hours and by the time we had completed our review we were laughing and talking with each other more than we had in years. Not only that, but before we had even finished, my wife looked at me and said, "Are you as turned on as I am?"
"I sure am!" I replied. And with a smile, I said, "But let's finish this first."
After we completed our review of the form, we began to kiss, caress and fondle each other on the balcony. Soon, we were in the room having the most passionate sex we had had in years. Not once, but three times that night, and, I'm happy to say, many times since.
On the way home, my wife was asking me how I developed the program and after explaining the process to her, I began to think, "We can't be the only couple in the world that are having the difficulties that we were." Then the thought hit me that we have something here that could save an untold number of marriages and relationships from disaster. After discussing this with my wife, we decided to form a company and market this wonderful thing.
A huge plus for us was that even after we returned home, we were still taking more and having fun with each other and continue to do so to this day. Although, I have to say that it does take continual reinforcement and effort to get and retain the habit of being open and honest with each other. You see, in the beginning, we were moving away from a condition that had become comfortable for us and moving out of one's comfort zone is never easy. Perseverance and determination are key factors in charting a new course for one's self, but once the new course is locked in, it does get easier even though it's may not always be perfect.
In the next post, I'll discuss the "Safe Zone" - what it is and how to establish it. In the meantime, please go to Sexual Solutions, LLC to see how you can begin to "Bring back the sizzle!"
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